We live busy lives with many duties and this often makes us want to give whatever it is we’re doing away and call it quits. There are times when this is probably the sensible decision. We’ve all stuck at things too long, whether a relationship, a job, or any other commitment when it would’ve been smarter to sever ties earlier in the piece. In Seth Godin’s ‘The Dip’, he wrote, “Winners quit all the time. They just know when to quit the right stuff at the right time.”
However, it is much more common for people to see ‘an early out’ too early, and take it. An internal voice reassures you with statements like, it will be okay, everyone will manage without you, you’ll feel so much better once you’ve thrown in the towel.
Could sticking with it be a better choice? At times we know this to be the truth but simply aren’t sure how to pull it off. It is usually the case that discovering that right reason to keep going can show us the way. These realistic methods will assist you in staying the course, and staying on task until it’s finalised.
Be aware of what you say to yourself
Internal statements like “This is beyond me, why did I even start?”, or “This is tougher than I’d imagined,” can be self-fulfilling and have already begun to program your thought processes and additionally set off a torrent of detrimental hormones to boot! When stressed and feeling low quitting can become an attractive proposition, the relief gained will be far superior to dread! The key to correct action here is to choose a helpful statement and to keep repeating it like a mantra, “I’m capable of this”, “I can do this, and I can manage.” In contrast to negative statements, these positive affirmations release neurohormones that cause us to feel better.
Watch inspirational movies about inspirational characters and mold yourself on them
Hire the film “Rudy”, with Daniel Eugene Ruettiger, and let this real life tale motivate and inspire you. A boy from a small town is repeatedly told he wasn’t big enough, smart enough, or athletic enough to play football for Notre Dame. So, what do you think he did, against it all? Another good choice is “The Pursuit of Happiness”, which tells the tale of Chris Gardner, single father of a five year old son, as he makes his way from homelessness to Wall St – an epic movie for sure!
Start now with a list
What is great and special about you? List EVERYTHING you have achieved so far, whether little or grand, dreams, successes, whatever you like! The purpose here is to gain awareness of what we have and can do, and feel glowingly good about ourselves.
Prioritise what you’re good at; outsource the rest
Even billionaire software developer Bill Gates has strengths and weaknesses, openly admitting he stinks at customer service. By letting others deal with this he can use his time efficiently. A while back I hired someone to take care of the lawn mowing and a couple of times a month look happily my beautiful yard and revel in the fact I didn’t have to do it! If you’re unsure of your skill set or natural talents there are ways of exploring this. The University of Pennsylvania offer their gold standard measures for free and are well worth a look https://www.authentichappiness.sas.upenn.edu/testcenter