Can EFT Tapping help with a Mastermind Group?

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If you have ever read Napoleon Hill’s work where he discussed imagining a Mastermind group in his own mind to sort out difficult issues, then you will love this. If not, then this will be great to read anyway!⁠

In his timeless classic, “Think And Grow Rich” Hill wrote about the #Mastermind principle as:⁠

“The coordination of knowledge and effort of two or more people, who work toward a definite purpose, in the spirit of harmony.”⁠

He continues…⁠

“No two minds ever come together without thereby creating a third, invisible intangible force, which may be likened to a third mind.”⁠

So – how could you use EFT tapping for something like a Mastermind group? Maybe it could be as simple as using tapping to find people who are similar minded (e.g. Even though I want to start a Mastermind group but I don’t know where to start, I accept myself anyway), or tap as a group once you have one (e.g. Tapping for common goals or individual ones).⁠

Either way, having a like minded group together sharing a common interest like EFT could be life changing, and very energising! As Pam Grout says – Who needs a guru when you have a power posse? ⁠

Tapping for Food Cravings, Stress and Insomnia – Podcast Episode

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Fantastic chatting with Audra on her podcast The Healthy Shiftworker with @thewellnesscouch!

From Audra’s post on Instagram

Today we’re chatting with @petastapleton who is a registered Clinical & Health Psychologist and an Associate Professor in Psychology at Bond University here in Australia. She is a world-leading researcher in EFT – which is short for Emotional Freedom Technique (otherwise known as tapping) and led a world-first randomized clinical trial investigating the effectiveness of EFT on food cravings in overweight and obese adults.

In this entertaining podcast (Peta has a great sense of humour!) we talk all things:

– What exactly is the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) or tapping, and how does it work?
– How EFT helps to reduce stress hormone levels and support our nervous system on a biochemical level
– The incredible statistics showing how fast it works to help those suffering from conditions such as anxiety and PTSD
– Results from her clinical trial showing how it helps to reduce food cravings – and yes, this does include a chocolate muffin!

-How it can be used to improve anxiety-related sleep issues such as sleep onset and reduce intermittent awakenings.

Listen to the podcast here everyone.

Follow Audra on Instagram:
@TheHealthyShiftWorker

How is EFT Tapping different from Counseling?

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This is a commonly asked question!

How Is EFT Different from Counseling or “Talk” Therapy?⁠

There is a physical (somatic) aspect to EFT along with the cognitive (thinking) part. Most traditional approaches to changing behavior or dealing with emotional issues, such as counseling or therapy, involve a “talk” component and rely heavily on changing people’s thoughts. This is fine for some people, but others get frustrated that their thoughts just don’t change. It may even be hard to recognize the thoughts that need changing.⁠

Does this sound familiar? ⁠

Because EFT just starts with what is bothering you and doesn’t try and change it up front, you get to truly acknowledge what is wrong. Some traditional therapies analyze your thoughts and attempt to “correct” them, but this takes a lot of willpower and effort. It doesn’t come easily to most (I know this after working with clients for more than 20 years) and it takes a long time for a change to become habitual and permanent.⁠

What if you could just acknowledge what is not feeling good, not feeling right in your life, a distressing thought or body sensation, and use the technique until it subsides? Nothing more than that—just focusing on it, using the tapping techniques, and feeling better/neutral/calm at the end.⁠

Now that might be a great idea! To learn more, feel free to explore our Ultimate Tapping Guide here.

Tapping for Goals!

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Quick Tips for EFT Tapping on Achieving Your Goals!!⁠

Always remember to be specific to your own physical sensation, words to describe your situation or feelings/ thoughts. Tapping works best when you are VERY SPECIFIC.⁠

Tapping works well for goal success and for ensuring your dreams can come true. It addresses the ‘tail enders’ or doubts inside us that prevent a goal succeeding. It is all about tapping on 2 things:⁠

1. Your BELIEF that a goal can and will come true.⁠
2. The doubt inside your head/body that it can’t/won’t.⁠

Write a goal you would like to come true – read your own goal out loud now and listen for any doubts inside your mind/body. We call these doubts “Tail Enders”. They might be like this:⁠

• It is now the 3rd May 2019, and I am standing on the beach in Hawaii enjoying a perfect vacation (BUT I DON’T HAVE THE MONEY FOR THIS or AS IF – YOU WILL NEVER GO OVERSEAS)⁠

Let’s tap now with the tail ender (not the goal itself) – the idea is to deal with the tail ender so it doesn’t get in the way of the goal coming true. Tap on each negative feeling or statement until they no longer feel true (e.g. you rate them as a 0 or 1). Once you have reduced the negative belief or feeling to a 0 or 1 say your goal out loud again. Re-rate your doubt in that goal or positive affirmation. It should be going down in number as your belief in it increases because you are ridding yourself of the negatives.⁠

You can also tap on the level of doubt only – e.g. your doubt is 8/10 so just tap with your doubt and see what shifts. Use tapping to explore WHY you this goal won’t come true with your tail enders. Do the tail enders represent someone else’s voice from your childhood (e.g. a parent told you, you couldn’t do certain things). ⁠

Always seek the support of a professional and skilled EFT practitioner if you need support with this.⁠

Unlocking the Power of the Law/Principle of Attraction with Vision Boards

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“Our attitudes and beliefs create a magnet to attract events, circumstances and opportunities to live out those attitudes and beliefs.”

This is what the Law of Attraction (LOA) states  – it provides the opportunity to shape our lives through the act of focusing on and then attracting our deepest, greatest desires. To put this law into action, people use a very influential tool – a vision board. Contrary to belief, creating a vision board is not just putting together pieces of magazine cutouts, gluing them into a collage on a board and hoping they will magically come true.

A vision board helps you narrow down your desires through the power of choice. The time and energy you will invest into making one will help you visualize your future and eventually constantly remind you of your life goals. Will Smith, Jim Carrey, Oprah and Arnold Schwarzenegger have all discussed their use and love of vision boards.

Before you set onto making one, let’s look at how vision boards empower you with the LOA:

1. It puts The Power Of Choice Into Focus. You choose what goes on the board, so it means that you will have to narrow down all of your goals – choose what is most important (now and in the future). It will then let you focus on what you truly want. Remember to choose images/representations of what you DO want in your future, not what you DON’T want.

2. It  is Your Daily Dose of a Visual Reminder. An unspoken rule of a vision board is that you need to place it where you will easily see it every day, every time. Visualization has grown to become one of the most effective mental workouts out there.

3. It fuels Your Emotions. Just the mere sight of your vision board, you should immediately reconnect with your passion for your dreams (if not, the pictures/images may not be powerful enough!).

4. It combines The Mission Of Achieving Goals With Fun.  Aside from being a concrete foundation to help you reach your dreams, creating a vision board should surely be fun from start to end. It could also be an entertaining way of relieving yourself from stress. You don’t even have to put much effort into organizing it – just have fun as you put them all together!

You are the one in-charge with your vision board. You decide what goes in it, you decide which materials to use for it, and you decide how you will make it. It could be digital or physical, anything is possible. This is the joy of planning and searching.

Bring in The Principle of Attraction

Now, not everyone believes in or thinks the LOA is real, nor easy! And I wanted to share a principle that is an evidence-based phenomenon with a foundation in positive psychology, goal-achieving research, and mind-brain sciences. This is called the Principle of Attraction.

The Principle of Attraction (POA) states that “Like Tends to Attract Like.” The Principle of Attraction is not magic and is not a universal law – it is based on you having an active role in the process. How you THINK, FEEL and BEHAVE tend to bring you more of the same.  Research says we are more likely to be attracted to someone who is physically similar to ourselves, and we trust them more! The scientific evidence points to opposites barely ever attracting – which means you can change who/what you are attracting in your life by changing how you think and feel.

Both the LOA and POA rely on you taking action – not being passive. For a new thought (your goal) to become a reality, you have to teach your body at an emotionally level how that would feel NOW. This is why the images on the vision board should elevate you to a heightened level of positive emotion – it is ideal to focus on how that would feel NOW when you look at your images Remember like attracts like – positivity usually attracts positivity and negativity usually attracts negativity. And positive people tend to have greater success, better jobs, better relationships, improved health and more.

So if the vision board image you select is not quite a perfect match for how you feel, think or act currently, then this is the place to start. You can start by imagining who you would be if that goal DID come true, and be active in being that person NOW.  The POA allows you to plan, prepare, take responsibility and adopt an optimistic/realistic perspective.

So whichever law or principle you subscribe to, enjoy the journey of creating both on the board, and in your mind and body!

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Break Up With Guilt

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Guilt; a feeling of responsibility, worry or remorse for some offense, crime, wrong, etc. Whether real or imagined. 

Being racked with guilt is a terrible feeling. Occasionally guilt can be useful. You feel bad for skipping the gym, so you make extra sure to go the following day. If it forces a good action or motivation to follow, or stops you making the same mistake in future, a certain amount of it might be healthy. Guilt also makes people more empathetic, and consider others feelings so again, not such a bad thing. With that in mind, it is not surprising research showed people who feel more guilt, make better friends, spouses and workers.

Often however, guilt is a destructive and unproductive emotion. It can become extremely unhealthy especially if we are still judging and beating ourselves up about it weeks, months, years down the track. It can also lead down a bad path to punishing ourselves further for feeling the guilt, e.g. binge eating/purging. 

Study after study shows that self-criticism is consistently associated with less motivation and worse self-control. It is also one of the single biggest predictors of depression, which drains both “I will” power and “I want” power. 

It might surprise you to hear that self-forgiveness and self-kindness is more motivating, and fosters a much better outcome moving forwards.

Peta Stapleton Break Up With Guilt kindnessAnd here’s the thing, no amount of guilt can change the past. No amount of worrying can change the future. So why do we love it so much? 

According to research mentioned in the book Upward Spiral, our bodies process guilt, shame and pride all in a similar way. Which explains why it is so easy to torture ourselves with feelings of guilt and shame, as they switch on our brain’s reward centre similar to how pride does. 

What do you often feel guilty for? Common worldwide pangs of guilt include reasons like, “saying no” to a person or invitation, not picking up the phone, spending too much time on Facebook or Netflix, not responding to an email quickly, falling off a diet plan, being assertive, spending money, staying too long in a relationship, bailing on a workout.

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You don’t get 20 years in jail for a parking ticket. So why are you sentencing yourself to weeks or years of emotional stress and pain from a minor infringement? You are not defined by these mistakes.

jail - emotional stress and painGuilt is an ineffective emotion. So let’s break up with it right now by following these tips: 

Question your beliefs: is a certain person, family, or society influencing your feelings of guilt? Are they possibly unfounded? Can you let this go? Is there a better way to deal with it that actually helps the scenario? (Note, you feeling bad doesn’t help anyone!) 

 

Debate the consequences: So you fell off the diet last night… What choices will you make today that will help get you back on track? What habits and preparation could you change next time to help you in tempting scenarios again? Guilt is an ineffective way to solve this, and will likely cause more emotional eating to make yourself feel better! 

Self-kindness: Forgive yourself! Is this really the end of the world? Everyone makes mistakes. Show compassion inwardly and stop giving yourself such a hard time. Focus on what you can do from here on in. 

Next time you have guilty feelings, evaluate whether is it healthy or unhealthy. If the length and magnitude outweighs the scenario, follow these tips to solve it in a more effective way. 

A Reading List for Abundance and Wealth Creation

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Wealth creation, money, abundance and financial success is a hot topic. Every time we run a seminar on this and teach how to use EFT / Tapping to deal with blocks or limiting beliefs, they sell out! Seems we are all taught many messages about these areas as children, and some of them stick! Here is a reading list of books I have personally found helpful. If I become aware of any issues in myself, I usually use EFT to deal with them.

  1. I met Lynne Twist at an ACEP conference in the USA some years ago and heard her speak. I immediately bought The Soul of Money : Transforming Your Relationship with Money and Life and devoured it. It is a little different from other money books I have read – instead of focusing on setting goals and making plans, Lynne looks at your core human values, and shows you how to align your relationship with money to your desired goal. Great reading!
  2. Platform : Get Noticed in a Noisy World by Michael Hyatt is a must read if you use social media for your business.  Michael used to be CEO of Thomas Nelson Publishers and embraced blogging when it started. (he still writes one of the top blogs in the world). This book is practical, filled with examples and while the online space does change rapidly, this book is still relevant as a starting point for your business. I loved it.
  3. New Australian Hay House author Denise Duffield-Thomas has written a highly entertaining book in Get Rich, Lucky Bitch!: Release Your Money Blocks and Live a First-Class Life. She gives loads of personal examples and practical tips. I like that there are incremental steps you can take if you want to adjust slowly and avoid the resistance that often comes with challenging core beliefs about wealth. Highly entertaining and useful information!
  4. I heard Jeff Walker on a podcast talk about Launch : An Internet Millionaire’s Secret Formula to Sell Almost Anything Online, Build a Business You Love, and Live the Life of Your Dreams.  And I can’t tell you how good this book is – it is a practical strategy and many, many, many business (small and HUGE) use this in their online marketing. Anyone can do this – but you need to read the book first. What you can’t see in the photo are all my sticky tabs on different pages!
  5. Finally, The Financial Healer : Change Your Self-Worth, Increase Your Net Worth is written as a novel with a message (I like these types of parables). It was inspired by the books of Robin Sharma and Paulo Coelho and it tells the story of Alex Lucas, a middle aged overweight divorcee who found himself constantly in debt even though he worked in the financial world.  While it is fiction this book highlights the work of John Seymour, Karl Dawson, Peter Thomson, Tony Robbins, Bruce Lipton, Wayne Dyer and more.  You could devour this in a single sitting but come back to it over and over again for inspiration.

That’s all for now – more on recommendations on EFT /inspirational books in other posts, and specific topic areas.

Please note I do recommend Book Depository for books as I love that they have free postage worldwide. I am also an affiliate for them given the amount of books I purchase! Of course you are welcome to shop at your local store or favourite site online!

Great Reading for the Start of 2019!

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I always have a pile of books next to my bed (sometimes piles around the house!). I don’t know about you, but I just like the feel of a paper book and not a kindle version. It means my luggage is heavier when I travel with a book or two, but I can cope with that! Here are some goodies to get 2019 started!

  1. Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking  by Susan Cain is made for people like me! I know you may not believe I am truly an introvert at heart (but I really am) – Celina Tonkin and I have even written a book about how introverts can use tapping (EFT for Introverts). In Quiet, Susan Cain shows how the brain chemistry of introverts and extroverts differs, and how society misunderstands and undervalues introverts. She gives introverts the tools to better understand themselves and take full advantage of their strengths. It is a GREAT read! Read this first then read our book on how to use tapping as an introvert to embrace your strengths and decrease your anxiety.
  2. Ask my girls and they will tell you I am VERY strict about the importance of sleep. The Sleep Revolution : Transforming Your Life, One Night at a Time by Arianna Huffington is such a practical guide to quality sleep, and eye opening about the issues people have, that every teen should have this on the book list at school! Read it this month and set up the year with great habits.
  3. Thank & Grow Rich : A 30-Day Experiment in Shameless Gratitude and Unabashed Joy by Pam Grout is another Hay House favourite of mine. Pam wrote the very funny and highly practical E-Squared : Nine Do-It-Yourself Energy Experiments That Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and E-Cubed: Nine More Energy Experiments That Prove ManifestingMagic And Miracles Is Your Full-Time Gig (both of which are so worth the read- you get to do all these cool experiments!). Thank and Grow Rich though is more about observing the world from a place of gratitude, using our attention to spot beauty, to focus on possibility. Pam says “Ever wonder why your thoughts easily create up-front parking spaces but don’t always produce the fat wad of cash or the hot guy? Could it be you’re on a different frequency?” Get this book going for the start of the year and report back in December!
  4. How Your Mind Can Heal Your Body has its 10th-Anniversary Edition out now! Dr David Hamilton (my favourite Scottish placebo scientist) has updated the original book out 10 years ago to include MORE on the effect of visualisation, belief and positive thinking on the body. David shows how using our imagination and mental processes can stimulate our own defences and healing systems to combat disease, pain and illness.  In another post I reviewed the CD of one of the visualisation techniques from this book – read here.
  5. Zero Limits: The Secret Hawaiian System for Wealth, Health, Peace, and More by Joe Vitale (featured in The Secret) was gifted to me by one of my lovely sisters. It is the story (and technique) of Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len who cured every patient in the criminally insane ward of a Hawaii`i State Hospital — without ever seeing a single patient. Now this may seem a little “insane,” so you are going to have to read this! The book outlines the legendary Hawaiian healing and cleansing method of Ho’oponopono. I loved the book and practice the technique regularly (you would never know!). A graduate of mine does the same and we tell each other amazing stories as a result!

That’s all for now – more on recommendations on EFT /inspirational books in other posts, and specific topic areas.

Please note I do recommend Book Depository for books as I love that they have free postage worldwide. I am also an affiliate for them given the amount of books I purchase! Of course you are welcome to shop at your local store or favourite site online!

Inspirational Tracks I Often Have Playing

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I am naturally very auditory (my university students might not think so with my dense powerpoint slides!) – I easily learn by listening and often drive around with a podcast, lecture, or CD playing.  These are a few of my favourites circulating in the car (until the girls get in and put music on!).

  1. The Secret – this is the audio version of the book version of the documentary/movie.  I find that because there are snippets of interviews and quotes it is easy to drive and listen in for some inspiration on the way to work. I know The Secret has been criticised for being too simplistic (e.g. You asked for your wish, believed it would happen but it never came true) and this is where something like EFT/Tapping may help to overcome core beliefs (e.g. I am not good enough) or events that happened in the past to set up ways of thinking/feeling. If I listen to The Secret and a certain idea results in a negative thought in my own mind (e.g. ‘as if that will ever happen’) then I may use EFT when I get home to discover where it came from, and then resolve any issues.
  2. Quantum Field Clearing is the CD of the technique relating to Dr David Hamilton’s book How Your Mind Can Heal Your Body.  It has 4 parts – the first 3 are a lecture outlining the principles (you can listen to this driving around) but the 4th part os the actual technique (note: do NOT drive while listening to this part – best done lying/sitting in a nice calm space at home). This is a guided visualisation by my favourite placebo scientist David and demonstrates that the power lies in our own minds, in our perception of disease. You listen and follow along – going down through the layers of biology in the body beyond the atomic level, where an illness or disease can be viewed as waves of energy instead of a solid substance. This is a must (even just to listen to David’s divine Scottish accent).
  3. I love the I am Wishes Fulfilled Meditation by Dr Wayne Dyer.  As Wayne explains, ‘I discovered while reading James Twyman’s book The Moses Code that the sounds you will be hearing in this CD were the result of some intense research to reproduce the exact sounds associated with the name of God found in the Old Testament, translated from the original Hebrew as I am that I am. ‘It turns out that specific numbers can be assigned to letters. And the tuning-fork sounds you’ll be meditating to are the exact sounds ascribed to the letters that comprise the Divine name of God. This has been called the most powerful meditation tool in the history of the world. I encourage you to become open to the idea that these sounds, when accompanied by you own I am mantra, can and will provide you with the ability to live a wishes fulfilled life.’  The sound is just beautiful and even if you weren’t spiritual at all, it is a lovely sound for your meditation practice (Note: do NOT drive while listening to this track).
  4. Another one by Dr Wayne Dyer – Meditations For Manifesting : Morning and Evening Meditations to Literally Create Your Heart’s Desire has had a huge impact in my life. At a time when we were struggling financially many moons ago, I didn’t have many creative ideas so I just decided I would do this meditation every morning and see what happened – it uses the universal power sound, “AH.” (The Evening Meditation for Gratitude uses the words “OM” and “Shal-OM”).  After several weeks of doing this meditation my husband was offered a multiple 6 figure position while buying his coffee; a job that was supposed to last 6 months and lasted 18! Money problem solved.  One for the bookshelf (and meditation practice! Thank you Wayne!).
  5. Finally Anita Morjani’s Deep Meditation For Healing complements her book Dying to Be Me. If you haven’t read, Anita had lymphoma, which had spread throughout her body, and her organs were beginning to shut down (the doctors expected her to die). Anita experienced a near-death experience (NDE) and, within 24 hours of coming out of the coma, she had a newfound knowing about her own life. Subsequently, her body healed very rapidly, and within weeks doctors found no traces of cancer. This CD contains a highly specialised program that uses sound at different frequencies to guide you to a state of very deep and meditative relaxation (note: do NOT listen while driving – you want a really nice cool, dark peaceful space for this meditation – it is lovely!). You can see Anita signed this CD for me – we met in Brisbane a few years ago – being near her was the most peaceful feeling I have ever encountered in a person.

That’s all for now – more on recommendations on EFT books in other posts, and specific topic areas.

Please note I do recommend Book Depository for books as I love that they have free postage worldwide. I am also an affiliate for them given the amount of books I purchase! Of course you are welcome to shop at your local store or favourite site online!

EFT books for Little Ones

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If you are looking for ways to introduce EFT / Tapping to younger children, look no further! These books featured here are a great way to read a story and teach the skill of tapping. There are many on the market and designed for all ages – these 3 below just happen to be on my bookshelf and are for under 10 year olds! I have added an extra non-EFT book that is just brilliant in terms of teaching mindfulness/relaxation exercises and complements EFT perfectly. I find myself dipping into it often (and my 11 year old likes me to read the exercises to her at night).

  1. Gorilla Thumps and Bear Hugs : A Tapping Solution Children’s Story is Alex Ortner’s book (brother of Jessica and Nick Ortner of The Tapping Solution). It is a lovely story of a child being teased in the playground at school (a common event!) and another student teaches her tapping. Suitable for up to 10 years, this books teaches the 4 EFT points rather than the 8 adults use.
  2. A Garden of Emotions : Cultivating Peace Through Eft Tapping is Brad Yates’ latest children’s book (he also wrote The Wizard’s Wish). This book is unique in that is not only discuses how to use tapping for different emotions, but comes with 10 videos that can be instantly downloaded by scanning in a code or entering it on a computer.  Really beautiful illustrations in this book.
  3. Huggi the Bear: Magic Spots is an Australian children’s book written by Psychologist Laura Louise Love. She also illustrated the book that teaches younger children (2-7 years) how to use tapping.
  4. The Power of Your Child’s Imagination : How to Transform Stress and Anxiety Into Joy and Success is filled with practical exercises to empower your child to cope with stress and anxiety. The scripts are designed to be read so children can use their imagination to access their own natural strength and confidence. It includes scripts for stress-induced headaches and stomachaches, phobias, panic attacks, and social anxiety, bed-wetting and sleepless nights, separation anxiety and so much more!

That’s all for now – more on recommendations on general EFT books in other posts, and specific topic areas.

Please note I do recommend Book Depository for books as I love that they have free postage worldwide. I am also an affiliate for them given the amount of books I purchase! Of course you are welcome to shop at your local store or favourite site online!

Your EFT Book Toolkit

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I am often asked which books on EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) or Tapping are good if you are starting out, or indeed have been working with the technique for a while. There are amazing books out there for choose from – I have a book shelf overflowing with them! But here are some of my favourites that are useful in the early days, some of them focus on EFT and others complement perfectly. You can actually see some of these are worn on the edges as they are really mine here in my office, and they get used a lot!

  1. The Clinical EFT Handbooks (vol 1 and vol 2) are a wealth of information for practitioners and therapists.  Each chapter is written by an expert in the field and cover the clinical application of EFT to fields such as addiction treatment, sports, surgery, weight loss, social problems, and family therapy. The physiological mechanisms of action of EFT are covered, as well as its sources in physics and chemistry. These 2 volumes are essential reading for anyone wishing to understand EFT as validated in research, science, and best clinical practice. (Note: I wrote the chapter on long term weight loss with EFT in Vol 2).
  2. Inna Segal has written 2 amazing books that complement the practice of EFT so well they should be mandatory reading in all EFT trainings! The Secret Language of Your Body: The Essential Guide to Health and Wellness  outlines the messages of the body and reveals the underlying energetic causes of over 200 symptoms and medical conditions – just about everything you can think of at a physical level is covered here. This is similar to Louise Hay’s You Can Heal Your Life, but more extensive in my opinion. EFT can be used on any of the suggested origins from the book. The second book here is The Secret of Life Wellness: The Essential Guide to Life’s Big Questions. It outlines many practical skills that can be used in conjunction with EFT for health and wellness, energy and life direction.
  3. Energy Strands: The Ultimate Guide To Clearing The Energy Cords That Are Constricting Your Life  by Denise Linn is my favourite new Hay House book. This is the technique that got me started about 25 years ago – I came across it from a colleague and practiced it over and over again. I am so glad Denise has written this book! She discusses the cords, strands, threads, and filaments of energy that flow to and through us, connecting us to everyone and everything in the Universe. Some energy strands make us feel vibrant and alive. Others deplete and weaken us. Most importantly Denise shows you how to release the cords that bind you and strengthen the ones that heal you. This is a perfect complement to EFT practices and one I highly recommend!
  4. The Ethics Handbook for Energy Healing Practitioners by the fabulous Donna Eden and Dr David Feinstein is essential if you are running a practice. I actually think it is better than some of the ethics texts we recommend in psychology! This text is filled with common ethical dilemmas and what to do as you work with clients. It has guidelines for sound therapy work and suggestions for working with a wide range of client issues and concerns.

That’s all for now – more on recommendations for children in other posts, and specific topic areas.

Please note I do recommend Book Depository for books as I love that they have free postage worldwide. I am also an affiliate for them given the amount of books I purchase! Of course you are welcome to shop at your local store or favourite site online!

 

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Mind Over Munch: How To Stop Emotional Eating

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Devoured a litre of ice cream after a break up? Detoured via a drive-through after a stressful day? Demolished 3 bags of chips to crush that loneliness? ‘Eating your feelings’ is a common coping mechanism. Our unconscious feelings can heavily affect and control our behaviour. So many diets fail because often we are not feeding our body due to hunger, but instead to deal with uncomfortable emotions like fear, shame, guilt, sadness, anger, loneliness, tiredness or even boredom. Of course, immediately following this eating binge, we feel even worse! This can lead to unhealthy patterns with food, weight yo-yo-ing, obesity, or eating disorders.

Ironically unhealthy eating habits, binging and/or poor nutrition just leads to further feelings of anxiety, depression, tiredness, low mood and cravings making it even harder to break the cycle.
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Am I An Emotional Eater?

Do you tend to overeat at stressful times?
Do you eat anyway despite being full, or not hungry? Feel like no matter how much you are eating, you are still not satisfied?
When you are feeling upset, angry, bored or anxious, do you reach for the junk food to make yourself feel better?
Has your hunger comes out of nowhere, seems urgent and overwhelming? Physical hunger tends to occur slower, and 3-4 hours after last meal
Do you reward yourself using food?
Do you stop eating when you are full, or stuff yourself silly?
Does eating make you feel safe again?
Do you feel like you don’t have control with food anymore?
Do you feel regret, guilt and shame afterwards? Physical hunger isn’t as likely to cause these feelings
Do you feel hunger in other parts of your body? For example, solar plexus (in between ribs) in your mouth, in your head etc. A growling tummy should be the only true hunger signal

Mind Over Munch – Stop Your Sabotage Cycle

Giving your car a paint job, when it really needs a new motor doesn’t solve the REAL issue. At first it appears like it’s fixed, and it looks kind of nice, but underneath the hood it is actually broken, and so it will continue to cause problems until the underlying issues are resolved.

Regain Control With These Techniques

Tapping may seem a bit strange and unorthodox but it has incredible results for many. Tapping on pressure points around the body (similar to acupuncture) helps to clear emotional baggage and also relieve chronic pain. In simple terms, it helps calm the nerves in your fight or flight control centre. This is activated when we feel anger, anxiety, or pain – and Tapping/EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) helps to release these emotions. Tapping has shown effective for helping with weight control and even cravings.

Learn how to tap your way to success – watch the video here.

Be aware. Start to notice what emotions come up before you eat and any patterns. Start a food diary to keep track of what emotion might be linked to a certain food, or be making you want food when you are not hungry.

Wait 5-10 minutes. Instead of eating immediately on impulse, wait a short time before. This gives you time to evaluate the scenario and ask whether you are actually hungry. When you feel hunger, try to choose a different pastime first (e.g. if you are anxious, phone a friend instead or if you feel bored, take the dog out for a walk…). Focus on feeling joy from activities that are unrelated to food. Studies show changing habits are also a vital key to reshaping patterns, and creating long lasting change in learned behaviours.

Mindful eating is also important. Whenever you eat a meal, ensure you are sitting down and you remove all distractions (phone, tv, feed the cat/baby beforehand!). Take a moment to enjoy the meal, chew each mouthful as many times as possible, and appreciate how good it smells/tastes. Research published in the Journal of the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics has shown this aids digestion, and actually helps you to eat less food, and also make better meal choices.

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Where did this start? Think about where/when/around who your emotional eating began. Research shows there children easily pick up bad eating habits from family members, and proceed to link particular food with feelings later in life. Was food linked to certain memorable events when you were younger? Or alternatively, did the emotional eating only start after childhood trauma? Seek professional help if delving back makes you too uncomfortable. The important thing is making any small step forwards.
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Fighting our brain’s reward centre can be challenging but with a few techniques you can reprogram any misguided emotional attachments, and create a healthy stress free relationship with food again.

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